Bible verses command us to love our neighbors as ourselves. There’s no
change between Old Testament and New Testament in the command. Over and
over we’re told to love our neighbors as ourselves. The Ten
Commandments are near the top of the list for important biblical
topics. But this command is mentioned more times than the Ten
Commandments. Pretty significant! In this egocentric modern day, the
sin of not loving our neighbors seems to stem from selfishness. But
what if it’s actually the sin of self-hate?
“When his brothers saw that
their father loved him more than any of them, they hated him and could
not speak a kind word to him” (Gen. 37:4). Notice that the emotion of
hate creates unkind words. Do you speak kindly to yourself internally?
When harsh thoughts continually run rampant, we begin to disrespect and
degrade the object of our disgust. What are your thoughts toward
Thoughts of hate turn into words
of hate and then into actions. Hate becomes a void, a place without
love. In order to fill the void where love belongs, we overeat and
overstimulate our sense of pleasure, drowning out the lonely internal
soul voice. Our bodies become abused while our minds and hearts are
sore from throwing them against the wall of wrong choices and love
lost. Empty spirits crave, claw, clamor for the fulfillment of love.
The addiction cycle builds a need for temporary fixes with food,
entertainment, and pleasure until it rages uncontrolled in our lives,
shoving aside peace and contentment.
February is the month of love
and relationships. Valentine’s Day is the high-pressure day to prove
undying affection. People push for the perfect date or feel left out if
they don’t have a current love interest. How are we able to love others
when we act in hate toward ourselves? Where does love come from if our
hearts are filled with self-loathing?
What if you stopped the frenetic
race and frantic pace to spend time receiving the deeply nourishing
love you desire? What if you found the one relationship that brings
Here is a gem of wisdom: Treat
God as your valentine and be His. Spend time allowing God to love you.
Let Him fill you up so that love naturally pours out of you into the
lives of others. “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes
from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.
Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love” (1 John
Put the gem of wisdom into
to know God by finding out
who He is. Dating is about discovering each other. Love letters are
common. Read the love letter written to you from God. Start in the
gospel of John or the poetry of Psalms.
privately with God. Some
call this prayer. But it’s okay to call it talking.
a letter to
Him your deepest emotions. Using a journal is nice.
about God often. We think
about our sweethearts, sometimes even to obsession. Think about the
sweetness of God.
God gifts of love: acts of
kindness to others; giving our tithes with no reservation; and spend
time with Him.
God. Thank Him for
the sweet things He does for you, and don’t take Him for granted.
writers: How would you build
the spiritual arc of a character prone to self-hate?
readers: Do you recognize
negative thought patterns about yourself and others?
a recipe to enjoy with
your loved ones and to thank God for giving you joyful taste buds.
1 dark chocolate cake mix
1 can of cherry pie filling
Stir together cake mix and
cherry pie filling. Pour into prepared greased and floured cake pan.
Bake at 350 degrees as per package directions. Frost with dark
chocolate frosting . . . or not. The surprise is in the simplicity and