What’s a girl
to do when every woman’s magazine seems more like a sex guide? I want
to read about trends and fashion, but this obsession with getting a man
in bed is creeping me out. Am I abnormal to find this offensive?
Fashion and the industry has
always been about pushing the envelope. That being said, I think the
envelope has been stripped, laid bare, and lies shredded on the floor.
Enough already! As a girl, it bothers me that today’s women’s magazines
view me as nothing more than a prostitute looking for a guide of
how-tos and contraceptive ads. The art of being a girl is so much more
I feel strong and powerful in a
great outfit that fits well and is a good color for me. Add a killer
handbag and some stilettos and, baby, there is no stopping me! So I’m
going to give the fashion magazines the benefit of the doubt and say
that maybe their message is that I should feel strong and powerful
without any clothes? The problem with that is, well, aren’t they
supposed to be selling clothing? That has to be the message of the
four-foot boobs in the Victoria’s Secret windows at the mall, right?
But I could be wrong.
So here are some great choices
for girls who just want to have fun and look good—not naked. First,
what is your style? Artsy? Business? Casual? Active? Second, know your
body type and run with it. (The muumuu, or the maxi dress as Hollywood
is calling it, looks a little different on us than it does on Angelina
Jolie. Just FYI.)
We all know styles change, and
what is contemporary doesn’t necessarily look good on everyone. Keep
that in mind as you find comfortable clothing for yourself. Some
general rules of thumb: If you’re big in the waist, look for empire
waistlines to bring the eye up, creating the illusion of an hourglass
shape. If you’re big in the hips and bum, go for straight lines in your
pants. Even a flare can help keep your leg lines looking long and lean!
Invest in a few good classic
pieces, then add accessories and colors that come into fashion. This
saves your having to change your entire wardrobe. Do you shop where you
find appealing styles and the clothing fits you well? That’s always a
good place to start.
If you still want to read about
fashion and get more guidance, following are a few magazines that
mostly focus on what’s in without letting it all hang out.
InStyle is a
great choice for what’s coming out in the fashion world for real women
in the real world.
to focus on what’s in style and some of the better pieces to invest in
for the season. More and Oprah
tend to be hit and miss.
The important thing is to know your
style and work with it. You don’t have to believe what the world
says—that you are nothing more than the sum total of your parts.
Feeling good about yourself is a great sensation, just make sure it
starts with God on the inside, and you’re set.
The Trophy Wives Club,
Christy Finalist: Lit Category
Back to Life,
Avon Inspire, September 2008
Beneath the Surface,
Tyndale House Publishers, Fall 2009