if one moment you could do everything for yourself and the next you’d
require help with minor chores? What would that do to your sense of
self, productivity, and pride?
I learned something the hard
way. Doubling my efforts in exercise can cause stress fractures when
the shoes I use are worn out. Yes, God allowed me to be benched for a
season due to injury. Right on the brink of a heavy travel schedule
I’ve learned to rely on creativity, flexibility, and—gasp—others
to meet my needs.
Are you like me? Someone who
prefers to do it all herself? It’s not a big deal to ask for something
simple. Something that doesn’t really cause others to go out of their
way. Something small that doesn’t make you feel . . . beholden. But it
is ever so humbling to need more than your “fair share” of help and
favors. Why is that?
Technically my sense of self is
fine, but I don’t like asking for help. I have an independent streak.
God had plans for me to learn dependence. He wanted me to rely on Him
and not my own might. That meant allowing God to work through others,
to stop limiting His love and the way it’s displayed. The sense of
God’s presence in our lives is often displayed through a servant’s
heart. How surprising when God asks us to allow another to serve
What could possibly be
beneficial about an injury? My productivity soared! Writers ask me,
“How did you finish so many books?” The seasoned multi-published author
responds, “By sitting my rear in the chair and writing.” It sounds
flippant, but it’s profound. The first day I had to stay 100 percent
off my broken foot, I finished several short projects. I researched for
a proposal, wrote a major portion of said proposal, then logged more
written words than I’d done in a long time. Why? Because I couldn’t do
anything else. I couldn’t play the procrastination game.
By the way, that game is famous
for lowering confidence and self-esteem. The more you procrastinate,
the lower your confidence. It’s like a brilliant, undiscovered
logarithm. The injury forced me to stay in one place and blessed me
with higher productivity. Eh, okay, at least there’s a bit of a light
to this hard knock. My self-confidence went up a few notches in
completing those projects. I began to believe in my ability to produce
quality work during regular business hours—a breakthrough for a gal who
thought her magic hours could only happen after nine at night.
What happens when others don’t
want to help? Their resistance, irritation, and frustration causes me
to shrink a little inside. What about you? The no-can-do attitude makes
it harder to ask for help the next time, doesn’t it? I know my pride
took a hit when I was given the brush-off. It was hard to work up the
courage to stand up for myself and insist I needed help. I saw a change
of heart when the person realized his callous behavior.
What if the Lord is using your
weakness to minister to the heart of that person? Imagine yourself
watching the story of your life played back in the throne room. Those
moments that felt the most humbling morph into a golden opportunity
that God used you to directly affect the faith life of another. Just
because you don’t see the result here and now doesn’t mean there isn’t
Think about how we treat others.
Most of the time, serving is easy and carries kudos. It’s fun to bask
in the gratitude and recognition of a good deed. Then come those
inconvenient situations. Is it possible someone else is being used to
teach or reach our hearts with a message God planned to display His
glory, love, and strength? Being on the receiving end offered me the
chance to look at a servant’s heart concept from different
perspectives. I’m curious what that throne room movie will be like.
God’s strength shines when you’re at your weakest.
is a recipe that begs for group participation. In fact, you might
choose to pick up an ice cream ball and turn freezing your dessert into
a game by rolling and tossing a ball around the group until it’s ready
to serve! It’s all about sharing your life with others in the work,
play, and final rewards. Here, the reward happens to be delicious!
Chocolate Blackberry Ice Milk
Smooth, creamy, luscious, and just a tad healthy!
(Makes about 5 quarts)
4 beaten eggs
2 ½ cups sugar
½ tsp. salt
4 cups nonfat half-and-half
4 cups 2% milk
1 pint or more smashed fresh blackberries (strawberries, raspberries,
1 cup dark chocolate sugar-free syrup
Refrigerate for 30 minutes. Put
in your ice cream freezer and follow the directions. Most require
alternating crushed ice with rock salt. Pour a cup of cold water ½ way
up the ice/salt layering and one more cup over the top layer. The trick
to a good freeze using enough salt over the ice. The finer the rock
salt, the smoother the ice cream. It comes out soft serve and you can
store it in the freezer until ready to serve if you prefer a hard ice